Thursday, March 10, 2011

The10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make

Bill and Pam Farrel, bestselling authors of Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti (more than 260,000 copies sold) and The 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make, now lead single men and women through the ten most influential decisions they can make to embrace faith, fulfillment, and purpose.

With candor and humor, the Farrels present ten decisions that will help singles

•live a full life instead of a “life on hold”

•choose celibacy for the purpose of ultimate fulfillment

•choose community and activity over isolation or self-focus

•wake up to the significance of their life and the opportunities ahead

•give their dreams, relationships, careers, and decisions to God

Biblical insights and life examples offer spiritual encouragement and practical guidance for those desiring a complete life as a single and as a person who is open to God’s plan for their future.

My review:
(I just reviewed The 10 Best Things a Man Can Do, which is similar to this book, but also different. Hopefully I can do both books justice and not do too much of a similar review.)
 I'm single, and there are not very many books out there for singles that aren't all about dating, marriage, and getting ready for that whole scene. This book is not all about dating and marriage, and even addresses how to live a full life instead of a "life on hold."

As with the 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make that I already reviewed, this book also has 10 chapters with each chapter being about one of the decisions:

1) Decide to be decisive
2) Decide to follow Jesus
3) Decide to celebrate
4) Decide to live in peace
5) Decide to wait
6) Decide to define relationships
7) Decide to live the good life
8) Decide to be an influencer
9) Decide to be a communicator
10) Decide to be a competitor

The authors, Bill and Pam Farrel are a married couple, but they talked with several singles and had them contribute to the book, so this is not a case of married people giving advice to singles - they got a lot of input from singles. That said, this is a terrific book for singles. I really like the fact that it isn't a "preparing for marriage book", but is more for preparing for life.

The subject of dating and marriage is discussed in the book, but that is not the central theme. It is about becoming what God wants, living a full life whether married or not, setting goals, making friends, and other things singles need to work at and do.

Being single is rough, and yes we need to depend on God, but its also good to read a book like this with advice for singles and stories from other singles going down the same road.

About the authors:

Bill and Pam Farrel are co-founders and co-directors of Masterful Living, an organization that provides practical insights for personal relationships. The Farrels are also regular relationship columnists. As coauthors their books include Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti, The 10 Best Decisions Every Parent Can Make, and Red-Hot Monogamy. In addition Pam has written Fantastic After 40! and The 10 Best Decisions a Woman Can Make. The Farrels have been married more than 30 years and have three children and a daughter-in-law.

Their website link is here.
Read a sample chapter here.