Fences

This has been on my mind a lot lately. I actually started a blog about it, and never finished it. After reading friend's blog yesterday, I decided to try again to put my thoughts down, jumbled though they may be. I should put a disclaimer here: I am far from perfect. I have tons of room for improvement, and most days feel like a failure in every area of my life, but these are some thoughts & concerns that I have - things I wonder about, and worry that I find the right balance also. Disclaimer #2: If you do not attend a conservative holiness church, you may want to avoid this post.

To start, here is a story from the Revolutionary War. I can't find the story on line, so I will tell it in my own words........

The winter was rough. The soldiers were freezing, and running out of wood to burn. Some soldiers asked General Washington for permission to use some of the fence rails from the neighboring farms for firewood. Permission was granted, as long as they only took the top rails. Soon, there were no rails left, for as the top rail was taken, the next rail became the "top", so it was soon taken.

Churches - and people - can be too strict. Churches - and people - can be too liberal. There are churches that throw out what the Bible says about premarital sex and homosexuality, and say you can be a Christian and be gay, and have sex outside of marriage. That you can sin daily and go to Heaven. And there are churches that say you cannot own a car or have electric, must wear dark colors and women must wear a covering. Who is right? How liberal is too liberal? How strict is too strict?

People are human. All too often, we want to get by doing as little as we can, but Jesus said this was a narrow way, a hard way. So how on earth do we decide who is right?

I go to a conservative holiness church. Many would brand us as too strict. I see many who used to believe as I do go an easier way. No longer do they look different from the world. They blend in perfectly. I try to be broad-minded and give people the benefit of the doubt, but one has to wonder - why do people try to get by doing as little as possible? Does anyone give God the benefit of the doubt anymore? Does anyone err on the side of caution?

The Bible doesn't spell everything out in black and white, but does give us principles. I wonder if it would matter if it did spell everything out, if it would matter. It plainly says homosexuality is a sin, yet that is argued, and accepted by many. It says it is a shame for a man to have long hair, yet people will argue over and around that and find reasons and excuses to get around it.

Principles. The Bible says to be modest. What does that mean? Where is the line? Again, too many people go as far as they can - the attitude is how much skin can I show, and still be a Christian? Set no evil thing before your eyes - the attitude is how far can I go with what I watch and read and still be Christian?

I have had people question me about my beliefs. Why we believe women should wear dresses/skirts as opposed to pants. Why we don't wear jewelry, even a wedding ring. Why we don't drink alcoholic beverages. Some ask so they can argue. Others really want to know. Not everything we believe can be pointed to in Scripture - the dress/pants issue can be, but is just argued away - but the principles are there.

There is something that in our modern day church world isn't talked about much. Being holy. God said "be holy, as I am holy". If we apply being holy - really apply it - to our lives, I believe it would illuminate some things for us. Would you look at the tattooed & pierced person who says they are a Christian and think they are holy? Or the young woman wearing the tight low cut top with her breasts hanging out for the world to see?

I have had the verse quoted to me many times - too many times - "God looks on the heart, not on the outward". True, but look at the verse in context: Samuel had gone to anoint one of Jesse's sons king of Israel. Jesse thought surely it was the tallest one, the best-looking one, the strongest, but God chose the youngest and smallest - God wasn't talking about what they were wearing - He was talking about something else entirely. God does care how we dress, where we go, what we view - everything that too many people think He doesn't care about.

Yet we can go too far to the left. I have seen some people who were a lot stricter than me fall off the edge and go liberal and throw out everything they formerly believed, so there is a danger of going too far to the right. What we need is a balance - and fences.

Turn the clock back about a hundred years, and all Christians looked the same. What happened? They started taking off the top fence rail. The dresses got shorter, until it became a mini skirt, then pants, then shorts so short they reveal too much. The hair got trimmed a bit, then some more, and soon you can't tell women from men.

There is a couple at my church who got wedding rings. Now she is wearing all kinds of jewelry. She took off the top railing, and then another. Is jewelry wrong? Maybe. God did say to put off the wearing of gold, and that our adorning should not be on the outward. Sounds like a principle to build a fence. Does the Bible say not to drink alcoholic beverages? Some say yes, some say no - who is right? It does say to avoid drunkenness and that wine is a mocker - sounds like God is saying it is better to avoid it.

I am not out to put what I believe on others, but I firmly believe that Christians are going to be different from the world. Look different. Act different. They aren't going to go everywhere the world goes, and engage in every activity that the world engages in.

At some point, some very wise, godly, and holy men & women looked at the Bible, and looked at society and saw where trends could go if there weren't some guidelines, or fences - in place. Are they 100% correct? Do we have to do everything our church teaches and believes to be Christian and go to Heaven? I say a cautious "no", but I think we need to be very careful in what we throw off or let up on. The video & TV is a good example. There is some good on TV - and a lot of bad. Some people can control it, and some can't. I know people I have a lot of confidence in that has a TV, but have also seen people who got one, and soon they had no standards different than the world. Videos/DVD - there are a lot of bad ones, and a lot that just aren't profitable to view - are they completely out for a Christian? No, but one should be very careful in what they view, and just as important - how often. All too many churches have done away with their evening services because people want to stay home and watch TV.

We Christians need to take the Bible and fit our lives around it, not the other way around. Pleasing God should be the most important thing in our lives, not our own entertainment and comfort. Instead of trying to get by with as much as we can and be a Christian, we should give God the benefit of the doubt more, and err on the side of caution - yet not carry it too far. We don't need to sell everything we have and go live in a monastery, or live like the Amish, but we all need to focus more on doing what God wants us to do - not our church, our family, our friends.

The key is balance. Pray and find out what God wants. I have a friend who said she could never wear dresses...........but has she ever listened to God on the issue? Maybe He wants her to, maybe not, but I'm afraid we come to God with our preconceived notions and ideas, and leave no room for Him to change anything. We don't listen, but just assume we are right. Find a church that is going to line up fairly close with what we believe. Are we going to find a church that we agree with 100%? I doubt many people will, but if there are issues we differ on, we should be careful of our attitude about it, and our reasons. I don't agree with my church completely, and don't live up 100% to the rules and beliefs of the church, but to me, they aren't major issues, and if God shows me I am wrong, then with His help and grace, I can change on those issues.

We all need fences. And when we have them, let's be very careful about removing rails, or moving the fence itself. Only God can show us what can be detrimental, if not outright wrong.

Icy Roads & A Night of Chinese

Friday evening, Vicki & Steve and the girls, and I were invited to the Goodenow's house, though Steve worked too late to make it. They were missionaries to Taiwan, so she has all kinds of Chinese recipes. She made a whopping 11 different dishes to serve. The only one I wasn't wild about was some kind of potatoes in curry sauce, but I had seconds on other stuff. The meal was delicious, and I got way too much to eat, and she put an entirely too large of a meal out, but we appreciated the effort. :-)

We ended the evening with a game of Beyond Balderdash, and dirt dessert. Thanks for a great evening!

It was starting to snow as we headed out to church last night, though they weren't calling for much. By the time we headed home, though not much snow had fallen, the roads had frozen and were very icy. Just within a couple of miles, we saw 5 cars in the ditch, and I think there were 2 accidents represented. We made it halfway up "Ski Slope Hill" and came to a stop. At first we thought there was an accident -there was a state cop ahead, and a long line of cars. I took a walk up to see what was going on, and found out it was just the roads. Some cars couldn't get up the hill. To add to the problem, 2 cars had tried to go past it all in the other lane, and couldn't make it, so everyone was waiting for a salt truck. Finally, one of the cars got out of the way, and we, and some other cars, managed to make it up the hill, and crept our way home. We found out later that they had shut down that section of road after we got on it. Thankfully, we made it home safe, though a 15-20 minute drive took us about an hour and 15 minutes.

Paul, Pam, and the boys drove in last night after church. Fortunately, they didn't hit bad roads til they got to Ohio, and arrived here around 11:25. This morning, Mom watched all 6 kids while Paul & Pam, and Vicki & I went to Austintown to shop for a bit. The kids got to play all day together, and still was grieved when the girls had to go home after supper. You'd think playing from 9 am til 5:30 pm would be enough, but I guess it wasn't.

Currently, we are watching the boys while Pam & Paul are in Salem making a CD. My brother-in-law is turning into another Bill Gaither - though he can sing better than Bill! - he wrote at least 7 of the songs they are putting on their CD, and already has the music tracks made to save some time & money. Tomorrow, they are going to record a few songs with the boys. That should be interesting. :-)

Salesman of The Month

This is no joke, but is funny. Due to worries about Obama's stance on guns, sales have gone up on guns since he got in office. One gun store in Pittsburgh especially has had their sales skyrocket to the point that they put a picture of Obama in their window, and under it a sign saying "Salesman of The Month". :-)

Valentine's Day.......Singles, Celebrate!

Tomorrow is the day all single, non-dating people look forward to all year long. We start counting down on our calendars as soon as one passes........not really.

It can be a depressing day. The rest of the world is going out to eat with their significant other. Buying roses and candy, going away for a romantic getaway, and all sorts of lovely things people in love do.

Meanwhile, the single person goes around wanting to rip apart the hearts they see dangling everywhere, or have the urge to decorate with black, or so I hear. :-) My church used to take the whole Sunday closest to Valentine's Day to speak on marriage and ways to improve it, blah, blah, blah. The singles would sit there and count all the crosses in the sanctuary.......I actually did that once, even figuring how many there were on the hymnals......

It does seem the holiday is all for those who are in love, not for those who are not. So what do we who have no significant other do with the day? There are some options. We can boycott it. Call and complain to stores - why not - the atheists do it with Christmas! We can barricade ourselves in our home and cry our eyes out. We can just ignore the day and try to pretend it doesn't exist. Or...........we can make the best of the day.

I buy Valentines for the people in my life who are important to me. For the kids, this year it was Prince Caspian valentines, which came with tattoos! Of course I didn't give those to the kids, but if I show up at church with several tattoos, you will know where they came from! I also buy the kids candy and sometimes a small toy. This year, it was all candy. I bought cards for my siblings and their spouses, and for my parents.

Valentine's Day is all about love. Who says it has to be gushy romantic make-you-want-to-throw-up love? There are all kinds of love to celebrate on Valentine's Day, so get out of the gloomy doldrums and celebrate love!

1) God. The most important love to celebrate. You can't really send God a Valentine, but what better day to dwell on the love of God, what it means to you, and ways to show God you love Him?

2) Parents. Get them a card. Good grief, you don't have to spend a lot on cards - go to the Dollar Tree and buy them for 2/$1.00. Can't beat it! Buy them some candy too!

3) Siblings. Buy them a card too! Let them know you love them and they are important to you.

4) Nieces & nephews. They don't care what day it is, but will enjoy the candy you give them, and may even be impressed with a Valentine if you buy the right kind, which me, being a savvy uncle who is up on what the kids like, managed to do. :-)

5) Friends. They have some decent cards to buy for friends that aren't gushy or icky. I don't do gushy or icky cards for anyone - why buy something that says something I would never say in a million years?!

6) Grandparents. At least shoot them a card in the mail. They will appreciate it.

The world, and our holidays do seem geared for married people and/or people in love, but this Valentine's Day, seems geared more than all the rest for those in love, but it is time we singles fought back! Don't let the married people take all of the holidays! This Valentine's Day, let us who are not in love, celebrate love, the many kinds of love that we do have. Who needs the gushy romantic stuff anyway?!

Happy Valentine's Day!

Render a Verdict

I thought this was cool, so I am passing it on. I read books by Randy Singer, a lawyer turned Christian legal fiction author. For his upcoming book, he has a fictional case about a gun manufacturer being sued. You can watch a 5 minute video about this fictional case, then render your verdict in favor of the gun manufacturer, or the people suing them. Whatever decision is rendered on his website, is the decision that will be rendered in the book. Even if you don't read his books, it is an opportunity to help decide the outcome of a book:

http://www.randysinger.net/justice-game-video

Science Fair

This evening was the Science Fair at our academy. I think it is neat that they do it, and it gives the kids a chance to experiment in different areas.

My oldest niece did one on baking soda, Allie did cereal, and Katie did milk. Katie & Allie's class had food to sample - each display was a breakfast food, and each one had samples of that food - bacon, sausage, pancakes & syrup, etc.

Katie did milk, and had small cups of milk for people to drink. Allie did cereal, and had that sweet snack food made from chex cereal - garbage or dog food

Stephanie, and her baking soda display.

The pancakes & syrup display.

And the orange juice display.

There were other cool displays also. The first graders did different animals and talked about them, one high school class had different experiments they did such as freezing water, one girl did an experiment with a mouse and what was best to trap one with. I guess there was a real mouse in the display at one point. Not sure where it was when I was looking at the display. :-)

All in all, it was an interesting evening. I don't think my nieces walked away with a prize, but it was nice for the kids to be involved in something like that anyway.

While I Wait

I know, I have already talked about this song, but it has really caught my attention. I mainly listen to Southern Gospel, but do like some CCM (Christian Contemporary) and Praise & Worship occasionally, and this song falls into the CCM category. I find myself listening to the song and/or watching the music video over and over, and weird as it may sound, I find myself fighting tears every time.

John Waller, author and singer of the song "While I'm Waiting" gives his reason for writing the song: "The explanation for this song is simple, I was waiting on God and I was hurting when I wrote the lyrics. I probably wouldn’t have written a song if my friend, Mike, hadn’t encouraged me to document what I was going through during that time. I’m sure there are few people who can’t relate to this song, but the important thing to remember while we’re waiting on God is to not just wait but to actively wait. Serve, worship and be faithful with what you have, where you are… “even while (you) wait.”

I think he has nailed it. I imagine there are many people who can relate to the song. I sure can. I hate to wait. I am probably one of the most impatient people on the earth. If I am hungry, I want to eat now. If there is a new book out by my favorite author, I want to read it now, and in one sitting. And if I need help from God, I want it now. I don't want to just have faith that He will do it.........someday. I want results now.

When we pray and want answers, God doesn't always say "yes". Sometimes, the answer is "no", and sometimes, a "wait" can be worse than "no". The single young girl/woman prays desperately that God will send someone into her life that she can love and marry, but no one comes, so she waits. The cancer-ridden patient, and their family, prays for healing, and it doesn't happen, so they wait. A nation prays that the most liberal pro-abortion candidate ever, will not win the presidency, but he does, and so we wait.

Thing is, there are no rest stops in the Christian life. God doesn't always act as fast as we want Him to. He doesn't always deliver when we expect Him, nor how. He doesn't always provide when we think we need Him to the worst, but we can't sit back and wait. If we do, we become useless to Him, and an easy target for the devil. That is where faith comes in. As Job said "Though He slay me, yet I will trust Him".

We can go for long periods of time where it seems God doesn't care, yet, as the song says, we have to keep running the race, keep trusting Him. There is a part of the music video that gives me chills pretty much every time I watch it. A fireman is climbing the tall ladder of the ladder truck. As he climbs, the song is at this point: "I will move ahead, bold and confident, Taking every step in obedience". As he nears the top, the cameras angle to show the top of the ladder, and it is just reaching into the sky. There is nothing to climb to, except the end of the ladder.

The idea I get, and I assume it is no accident, is that is how our walk with God must be. One of faith. At times, it may seem we are climbing a tall ladder that drops off into space, yet we are to trust Him, and keep on climbing, having faith that when we get to the top of the ladder, there will be another, or He will catch us.

Anymore, my life feels like I am living in a snow globe that someone has furiously shaken. I have prayed for help in my finances, job, and other areas of my life, and nothing improves. I know I have pulled back in my relationship with God, and have pretty much had the attitude that if He does that, answers that prayer, then I will trust Him, and have faith. And then, I will work on my relationship with Him, and start climbing that ladder again.

Unfortunately, God doesn't work that way. God asks you to keep climbing the ladder, even though it seems to end in mid-air, or jump off the cliff without showing the safety net that is below.

God says they that wait on the Lord will renew their strength, but His idea of waiting, and ours is totally different. With His, we do have to keep running the race, living the Christian life day by day, even though all hell seems bent on sidetracking us.

I am sure every Christian has something they are waiting for God to do. I do. You do. Yet we cannot pause a moment while running this race. The prize is out there someday, and the track we are running on may not aways be smooth and level. All too often, it can be a lonely, rough, and uphill run, yet we can't give up, we can't stop and sip lemonade in the shade. We can, and should, pray daily for God to answer those prayers, to provide for the needs we and others have, but while we wait for Him to act, we must keep running, worshiping, trusting. And if He asks us to climb that ladder, we must climb. Faith isn't easy. If it were, if we could see the end result, it wouldn't be faith.

While I’m waitingI will serve You

While I’m waitingI will worship

While I’m waitingI will not faint

I’ll be running the race

Even while I wait